If brushing feels like a fight, it's not your hair's fault.
Here's what nobody tells you: most of us brush our hair completely dry. And dry strands create friction. That friction is what causes the tugging, the snapping, the flyaways, and the frizz that shows up minutes after you've styled.
So the harder you brush, the worse it gets. You're not doing it wrong — you've just been missing one thing.
The missing piece is moisture, applied at the exact moment you brush.